Are you waiting on your prince to come or looking for your damsel in distress? You are probably doing it wrong! Nearly no one ever has such fantasy, story-book experiences with romance!
For the vast majority if people, where you are throughout your daily routine is the biggest factor in your romantic relationships. You simply cannot have a relationship with someone you don't meet.
Though the 21st Century has created the real possibility of meeting people through the Internet, that is still a meeting of sorts. These types of meetings are, indeed, real and can lead to long-term, meaningful relationship.
Thus, the reality stands that, unless you meet someone (Internet or otherwise), you cannot have a relationship with them. But, many people cling desperately to the romantic notion that you can sit back and wait, and your long-lost, never-yet-met soulmate will appear and give your life the meaning it has been lacking. This is simply not remotely likely.
The truth is, where you are and who is proximal to you there are the biggest predictors of who you will have a relationship with. Stop and think about it. How many people do you know that have meaningful relationships with someone they have not met? Zero.
So it is that your schedule and the architecture (or software user interface) of the place where you spend the most time are the biggest factors in romance. The fantasy idea simply does not play out in reality, and if you are sitting around waiting for the very unlikely, you are probably going to be waiting forever.
Thursday, March 28, 2019
Tuesday, March 26, 2019
SNAPlife: Just Be Yourself Might Be TERRIBLE Advice - s2e86
Want to be accepted? Need to fit in better?
If so, then "just be yourself" might be terrible advice.
If you have found a group that would, if you were a part of it, make you or lead you to becoming a better version of yourself, then you very well might need to change things about yourself in order to become a part of it. It's a tough situation!
If being part of a group mean compromising your morals or ethics, then its probably not a group that would benefit you. But if it means refining yourself and adding to what you are becoming better, then you might want to try and make those changes.
It's a difficult question, and everyone has to answer it. But if you would be better off as part of some group or in some sort of relationship, then take a serious look at how you line up and tweak the things that would make you better.
If so, then "just be yourself" might be terrible advice.
If you have found a group that would, if you were a part of it, make you or lead you to becoming a better version of yourself, then you very well might need to change things about yourself in order to become a part of it. It's a tough situation!
If being part of a group mean compromising your morals or ethics, then its probably not a group that would benefit you. But if it means refining yourself and adding to what you are becoming better, then you might want to try and make those changes.
It's a difficult question, and everyone has to answer it. But if you would be better off as part of some group or in some sort of relationship, then take a serious look at how you line up and tweak the things that would make you better.
Sunday, March 24, 2019
s2e85 SNAPlife Being Busy Is Not The Same As Doing Something
Being busy does not mean you are getting anything done.
Reaching your goals and objectives—becoming successful—requires action, but not just any action. It requires actions that are directed and focus. And meaningful.
It is far to easy to fill your schedule with business rather than with productive activity. And once the schedule if full, then the things that would really lead toward your goals have no place on it.
Being successful is often defined in terms of mission, goals, and objectives. Plans and individual action-items should line up with specific objectives, and policies and procedures need to align with everything from the mission down to the action item.
But, it is frequently the case that action items show up with little or no connection to the overall big picture. We become busy, but in terms of our mission, get very, very little done.
Reaching your goals and objectives—becoming successful—requires action, but not just any action. It requires actions that are directed and focus. And meaningful.
It is far to easy to fill your schedule with business rather than with productive activity. And once the schedule if full, then the things that would really lead toward your goals have no place on it.
Being successful is often defined in terms of mission, goals, and objectives. Plans and individual action-items should line up with specific objectives, and policies and procedures need to align with everything from the mission down to the action item.
But, it is frequently the case that action items show up with little or no connection to the overall big picture. We become busy, but in terms of our mission, get very, very little done.
Friday, March 22, 2019
SNAPLife: Hustle With Intent - s2e83
Success… It's not how fast you are going. It's whether or not you are getting anywhere!
Running in a circle very fast gets you nowhere. You can drive around a race track and go 500 miles, but end up essentially where you started while at the same time, you can go 120 miles down the interstate highway. If success is measured by the degree to which you move, which case represents the biggest gain?
Hustle alone is not the key to success. Hustling with intent, with purpose, toward goals and objectives is the way the path to success is traveled! Don't just be busy. Be busy doing something!
Running in a circle very fast gets you nowhere. You can drive around a race track and go 500 miles, but end up essentially where you started while at the same time, you can go 120 miles down the interstate highway. If success is measured by the degree to which you move, which case represents the biggest gain?
Hustle alone is not the key to success. Hustling with intent, with purpose, toward goals and objectives is the way the path to success is traveled! Don't just be busy. Be busy doing something!
Monday, March 18, 2019
SNAPlife: Is The Tide Rising OR Is It A Zero-sum Game - s2e80
Competition or collaboration? Does having another player in the game help your cause or hurt it? If someone else gets a breakthrough, does it hurt you or does his or her gain also benefit you?
The question is this: is it a rising tide situation or are you in a zero-sum game? You have to decide if the benefits to someone else also benefit you, or does their gain mean a loss for you.
While there are, indeed, many situations that follow the principles of the zero-sum game, there are many, many others that better fit the idea of the rising tide.
Stop and consider. Don't just become jealous or envious when something good happens to someone around you. Perhaps its a rising tide that will life your boat, too.
The question is this: is it a rising tide situation or are you in a zero-sum game? You have to decide if the benefits to someone else also benefit you, or does their gain mean a loss for you.
While there are, indeed, many situations that follow the principles of the zero-sum game, there are many, many others that better fit the idea of the rising tide.
Stop and consider. Don't just become jealous or envious when something good happens to someone around you. Perhaps its a rising tide that will life your boat, too.
Saturday, March 16, 2019
SNAPlife: You Cannot Stay On Step 1 - s2e77
Inherent in the idea of success is progressing toward mastery. If you never get off step 1, you will never achieve the levels of success you intend.
Starting off with the basics is a must, but as time passes, being successful demands that you move into higher and higher stages of development. Someone who can make a really, really good grilled cheese sandwich would not be considered a great chef. Mastering the basics is a must, but the basics should lead onward to more complex sets of skill.
Starting off with the basics is a must, but as time passes, being successful demands that you move into higher and higher stages of development. Someone who can make a really, really good grilled cheese sandwich would not be considered a great chef. Mastering the basics is a must, but the basics should lead onward to more complex sets of skill.
Thursday, March 14, 2019
SNAPlife: You Cannot Skip To Step 10 - s2e77
One step at a time. That's the best way to go from the beginning of something to the masterly level. You start at the beginning, learn the fundamentals, and grow into expertise.
Trying to do things far beyond your skill level rarely works out. At best, you can get by for a while. At worst, you find yourself making dreadful mistakes and becoming frustrated and discouraged.
The road to success is, sometimes, long and demanding. Success comes from starting with the foundations and building on them.
Trying to do things far beyond your skill level rarely works out. At best, you can get by for a while. At worst, you find yourself making dreadful mistakes and becoming frustrated and discouraged.
The road to success is, sometimes, long and demanding. Success comes from starting with the foundations and building on them.
Wednesday, March 13, 2019
Day In The Life: Get Started Or You Will Never Get Finished AND Dealing ...
Sometimes, you have to stop talking about things and do them.
If you have come to the place where you have decided that something is a good idea, that something needs to be done in order to make things better, then there comes a time that you need to do them! Talking about them doesn't get them done. Take action!
If you have come to the place where you have decided that something is a good idea, that something needs to be done in order to make things better, then there comes a time that you need to do them! Talking about them doesn't get them done. Take action!
Tuesday, March 12, 2019
SNAPlife: How To Fail With The Least Effort - s2e74
The road to success is lined by failures, by people or organizations that have, along the way, just pulled over and stopped. This shouldn't surprise anyone. Failure is easy.
If you want to be successful, you need to stick to your plans and push through the discouragement until your goals are reached. Don't give up just because things get hard.
If you want to be successful, you need to stick to your plans and push through the discouragement until your goals are reached. Don't give up just because things get hard.
Monday, March 11, 2019
Coffee Chat: Connections Between Thoughts, Actions, Body, and Feelings ...
Humankind is complex. Body. Mind. Feelings. Actions. All of these things are interrelated and connected. They all influence the other. When one is off, it can affect the others.
Learning to control what you think and being intentional about what you do can have huge impact on your emotional state. Seek out uplifting experiences and focus your thoughts on the positive and your feelings will follow.
Learning to control what you think and being intentional about what you do can have huge impact on your emotional state. Seek out uplifting experiences and focus your thoughts on the positive and your feelings will follow.
Saturday, March 09, 2019
Day In The Life: Plan Ahead To Succeed - s2e71
Planning ahead is vital to getting ahead. Your plans and preparation will make your efforts pay off with bigger returns! Don't skimp on the planning and preparation part of the things you want to accomplish!
Friday, March 08, 2019
Coffee Chat: The Silver Lining Still Doesn't Make It Okay-The Afghan Gir...
When bad things happen…
Sure, often, good things can eventually come out of the bad things that happen. But just because that is true doesn't make what happened right. Looking back at something tragic and saying, "Well, it eventually led to this good outcome" in no way reduces the bad of what happened.
Sure, often, good things can eventually come out of the bad things that happen. But just because that is true doesn't make what happened right. Looking back at something tragic and saying, "Well, it eventually led to this good outcome" in no way reduces the bad of what happened.
SNAPlife: Just One Big But - s2e69
When you use the conjunction "but," it negates whatever comes before it. The focus becomes whatever comes after the conjunction.
There are ways of giving critique that are gentle, true, and helpful. Negating a compliment with a "but" is not one of them. Learn how to give critique in an effective way.
There are ways of giving critique that are gentle, true, and helpful. Negating a compliment with a "but" is not one of them. Learn how to give critique in an effective way.
Tuesday, March 05, 2019
Coffee Chat: Stick With It AND Indoor Track - s2e65
Do you every have to just push through and finish? Yeah, that, sometimes, is the key to success.
There are many things in life that require us to simply get started and keep going. Many skills are acquired most directly through repeated experiences, building endurance for that skill and mastering its intricacies.
There is most certainly a connection between being successful—at anything—and sticking with it. Push through the process until you reach your goal.
There are many things in life that require us to simply get started and keep going. Many skills are acquired most directly through repeated experiences, building endurance for that skill and mastering its intricacies.
There is most certainly a connection between being successful—at anything—and sticking with it. Push through the process until you reach your goal.
Monday, March 04, 2019
SNAPlife: Focus On What Matters - s2e63
Do you know what really matters? Do you? Well, then you should be ready to focus.
Make sure that what you do is part of what "you do." What is your life/organizational mission? That is the guiding light with regards to your todo list.
What really matters are the things that lead you toward the things you have defined as part of who you are and what you do. Focus on those things.
Make sure that what you do is part of what "you do." What is your life/organizational mission? That is the guiding light with regards to your todo list.
What really matters are the things that lead you toward the things you have defined as part of who you are and what you do. Focus on those things.
Saturday, March 02, 2019
SNAPlife: Come Early, Stay Late - s2e62
The journey to success is sometimes a long one. The prospect of being successful is vastly better for those willing to begin as soon as possible and carry on until the goals are all met.
Every day you delay in starting is a day wasted, and if it is your intentions to change something, every delay is just more time you spend doing it wrong, the outcome of which will be compounded.
Start your journey toward success immediately. Stick with it, and as the time passes you will realize the gains you wanted.
Every day you delay in starting is a day wasted, and if it is your intentions to change something, every delay is just more time you spend doing it wrong, the outcome of which will be compounded.
Start your journey toward success immediately. Stick with it, and as the time passes you will realize the gains you wanted.
Friday, March 01, 2019
Live Better: Family Matters BUT This Will Make You Groan - s2e61
Family is sometimes an amazing asset and a great support in life. Take a moment to think about your own family and how it has helped to create who you are.
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