Maybe you just need to stop being yourself!
Advice to "just be yourself" abounds. Individuality is applauded and encouraged all over the Internet and in the classroom. But is it a good idea?
Not if being yourself fails to lead to your goals and objectives. Not if being yourself annoys other people. Not if being yourself violates other people's rights!
Better advice would be to become the self that helps you move toward your goals!
If being yourself doesn't work, don't keep trying it. Try something else!
Monday, September 23, 2019
Wednesday, September 18, 2019
About Making TikToks - s3e19
Not everything we need to know to be successful comes from a math, science, or English book.
#tiktok #edcuation #success
#tiktok #edcuation #success
Thursday, September 12, 2019
You Don't Have To Write Down Your Goals
There are times when you actually don't need to write down your goals. Really.
It starts when you fully, totally, entirely, completely understand your mission. You know the "whatever it is you are trying to do" so fully that there are circumstances that arise and the mission itself is enough to guide your actions.
Consider an emergency room setting at a hospital. Taking care of patients is clearly a big part of the mission. So, keeping the walkways clear so that no one falls naturally follows the mission. There need not be a goal of "moving 10 things out of the aisle." The mission is strong enough that, when understood, it informs a host of related actions.
A mission of wellness and health situationally informs food choices. A mission that includes being kind to others automatically guides actions when out in public, and a goal of smiling at eleven people is not needed. The mission, itself, is clear enough that smiling naturally occurs.
Certainly, writing goals is necessary in many cases. But, there are also many cases where a strong and clear understanding of the mission is enough to fully guide decisions and behaviors.
It starts when you fully, totally, entirely, completely understand your mission. You know the "whatever it is you are trying to do" so fully that there are circumstances that arise and the mission itself is enough to guide your actions.
Consider an emergency room setting at a hospital. Taking care of patients is clearly a big part of the mission. So, keeping the walkways clear so that no one falls naturally follows the mission. There need not be a goal of "moving 10 things out of the aisle." The mission is strong enough that, when understood, it informs a host of related actions.
A mission of wellness and health situationally informs food choices. A mission that includes being kind to others automatically guides actions when out in public, and a goal of smiling at eleven people is not needed. The mission, itself, is clear enough that smiling naturally occurs.
Certainly, writing goals is necessary in many cases. But, there are also many cases where a strong and clear understanding of the mission is enough to fully guide decisions and behaviors.
Wednesday, September 11, 2019
Can You Believe It? - s3e16
In a world of social media and large, open space work areas, compliments in passing aren't uncommon. But, are they true? Similarly, supervisors are taught to encourage the good things instead of just criticizing the areas needing improvement.
How can you tell if a word of encouragement or a compliment is true? How do you know that it is not just some obligatory gesture of kindness—and perhaps it is just the precursor than attempt to lure you into something!
Two things offer evidence that compliments and words of encouragement are true.
First off, does it come unexpected? Could the person who said it (typed it) have just as easily said nothing? The fact that they took the effort to stop you and say something (or go to the comments section and type something) is a good indicator that whatever they typed was something they believed.
Secondly, is it specific? A passing "nice job!" comment could just be an effort toward them looking thoughtful and not a genuine attempt to encourage you. Sure, it's great to be told you did something well, but the lack of specificity leaves such a compliment open to doubt. However, if they say, "Wow! How you handled the customer's complaint about the packaging was really great!" there's a good chance that they really believe that.
When someone pops up out of nowhere and offers you a compliment that is specific and relevant, there's a really good chance that it is true.
AND, if you want someone to feel encouraged… Let them know what you think (specifically) at a time that it is not expected.
How can you tell if a word of encouragement or a compliment is true? How do you know that it is not just some obligatory gesture of kindness—and perhaps it is just the precursor than attempt to lure you into something!
Two things offer evidence that compliments and words of encouragement are true.
First off, does it come unexpected? Could the person who said it (typed it) have just as easily said nothing? The fact that they took the effort to stop you and say something (or go to the comments section and type something) is a good indicator that whatever they typed was something they believed.
Secondly, is it specific? A passing "nice job!" comment could just be an effort toward them looking thoughtful and not a genuine attempt to encourage you. Sure, it's great to be told you did something well, but the lack of specificity leaves such a compliment open to doubt. However, if they say, "Wow! How you handled the customer's complaint about the packaging was really great!" there's a good chance that they really believe that.
When someone pops up out of nowhere and offers you a compliment that is specific and relevant, there's a really good chance that it is true.
AND, if you want someone to feel encouraged… Let them know what you think (specifically) at a time that it is not expected.
Wednesday, September 04, 2019
My Zipper's Stuck! - s2e13
The road to success is often riddled with obstacles. Getting around them is not always something you can do alone.
When you face a challenge that is too much for you, alone, there are some things you can do to greatly increase the likelihood of successfully overcoming them.
First, you have to recognize you need help. Knowing when you are in over your head is vital to starting the process of finding solutions to your problems. There's nothing wrong with asking for help!
When you do ask for help, be prepared to, as much as possible, explain exactly what's wrong. Metaphorically, the more you can tell the mechanic, the easier it will be to get the problem fixed!
Also, when possible, make known what you think the other person can do to help you. Be as specific as possible so the other person can get right to the thing you want and not waste time doing things you don't need them to do.
Being able to get help when you need it, explain what's wrong, and express clearly what you need done are three very important steps on the road to success.
When you face a challenge that is too much for you, alone, there are some things you can do to greatly increase the likelihood of successfully overcoming them.
First, you have to recognize you need help. Knowing when you are in over your head is vital to starting the process of finding solutions to your problems. There's nothing wrong with asking for help!
When you do ask for help, be prepared to, as much as possible, explain exactly what's wrong. Metaphorically, the more you can tell the mechanic, the easier it will be to get the problem fixed!
Also, when possible, make known what you think the other person can do to help you. Be as specific as possible so the other person can get right to the thing you want and not waste time doing things you don't need them to do.
Being able to get help when you need it, explain what's wrong, and express clearly what you need done are three very important steps on the road to success.
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