Cupid's arrows hit you hard, and now you are on the verge of a new romantic relationship. And, first off, the other person wants to change you.
Plot twist: this is the wrong relationship!
Likewise, if your first inclination about the other person is that you'll change a few things, then… no. Don't do it.
Sure, love can find a way and sometimes opposites really do attract. But if it is the "oppositeness" that attracted you, then you won't want to change THAT.
The older you are to begin with, the less a person is going to change. The past days have shaped and molded them a certain way, so don't expect the future days to change them into something vastly different.
Indeed, people change with time, but the best situation is that, at the beginning of the relationship, you are both mutually satisfied with the other person. Starting a relationship with the expectation that the other person will change or facing the assumption that you will change is starting off poorly.
If the first thing you think of about a potential relationship is that the other person has to change or that you have to change for them, then you're probably in the wrong relationship.
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